A parent's role in children's behavior

If your child indicates he or she is being bullied, assure your child that it was the right choice to tell you. Deal with the situation in a responsible and confidential way. Parents can help their children learn ways to handle their anger or frustration and how to resolve conflict in nonaggressive ways.

If you suspect your child is being bullied, maintain open communication and stay informed about your child's life. Your child may be a victim of bullying if your child tries to avoid going to school, loses interest in schoolwork or begins to perform poorly, or displays unusual changes in temperament.

Be familiar with technology and set boundaries for use. Educate your child on appropriate online behavior and supervise his/her activities online. Set up proper filters and place computers in public areas. If bullying occurs, document all messages and activities and block the bully from further contact. Contact the police when physical threats are made or other aggressive messages are sent.

References: (1) National Association of School Psychologists, Bullies and Victims: Information for Parents (PDF) (2) American Psychological Association, Bullying: What Parents, Teachers Can Do to Stop It (3) Principal Leadership, September 2008; Cyberbullying Content contributed in part by Erica Maniago, Ph.D.